Reminder: Stop Giving Your Love To Those Who Aren’t Ready To Love You 🤍
‘The people, places and things that are destined for you are the ones that give you as much energy as they take.’
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You are such a loving and giving person. There is so much beauty in that. But there is also a reason why some people will say it’s your biggest weakness, and it’s this: Those with the softest hearts tend to give their love to the people who deserve it the least.
I know that can be hard to hear. You may argue that no one is inherently undeserving of love. And that’s true—but that also doesn’t mean they’re deserving of your love. Because when someone doesn’t respect you, when someone doesn’t want to put in the effort, when someone can’t reciprocate your feelings, they don’t deserve to still have access to all the best parts of you. When someone takes you for granted, you’re allowed to walk away.
You don’t have to constantly show up for someone who won’t show up for you. You don’t have to chase after someone who only cares to run away. You don’t have to keep giving pieces of yourself to those who won’t treat them with care. In fact, you shouldn’t. You’re allowed to take care of yourself, mind, body, and soul. That should always be one of your top priorities.
It’s not selfish to set boundaries and refuse to budge them. You’re not asking for too much or being unreasonable. The people who are meant for you will be there for you. As Rania Naim so wisely put it: “People who want to show up for you do that willingly and lovingly. People who value you will act right because they wouldn’t risk losing you. People who truly care about you won’t keep you waiting for their love or their time or their attention.”
I hope you always remember that. Because those people exist, whether you realize it or not—you just have to find them. And when you do, you’ll realize all your misplaced love and attention were only hurting you in the end. Because when you find those who are ready to return all the love you give to them, that’s when you’ll know you’ve finally found the right people. As Alora Hayward wrote, “Remember, you will find your tribe, and once you do, you will be, as Jane Austen says, incredibly and incandescently happy.”
What We’re Reading This Week 📖💛
“When I start to panic now—about being a failure, about craving success, about the passage of time, about a ravenous desire to be someone else, someone better and smarter and beautiful—I retreat by nestling not into isolation and a narcotic numbing, but gratitude and community.” — Danielle Tcholakian
“The internet has made the entire world a library with no exits and no supervisors.” — Kate Harding
“If beauty is our only hope, it is not because it can save us, but rather because it can distract us.” — Tara Isabella Burton
“The real toxicity within this sort of discourse comes not from viewers but from the web sleuth dynamics that play out afterward.” — Rebecca Jennings
“It felt a little like forgiveness, a little like moving on. It also felt like I was back to being an adult, separating my happiness from my family’s complicated web of relationships.” — Katy Gathright
“Let’s all do ourselves a favor and forget about the difficult guys. Real, high-quality love feels easy.” — Trisha Bartle
“Just as every grief narrative is a reckoning with loss, every love story is a chronicle of finding.” — Kathryn Schulz
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Let us leave you with this:
“It is the hardest thing you will ever have to do, and it will also be the most important: stop giving your love to those who aren’t ready to love you. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop showing up for people who are indifferent about your presence. Stop prioritizing people who make you an option. Stop loving people who aren’t ready to love you.” — Brianna Wiest
Believe that you have that strength within you—for that is an act of self-love ✨
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