Thought Catalog Presents: A Talk With Sabrina Bendory, Relationship Expert And Author Of 'You're Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love By Being Your True Self'

"You have so much more power over your life than you realize."

Join us this Thursday, February 23rd at 1 p.m. EST on Thought Catalog’s Instagram for an IG Live interview with author Sabrina Bendory about her new book You’re Overthinking It: Find Lifelong Love By Being Your True Self.

You can find an exclusive excerpt from Bendory’s book here:

The fact is, getting what you want in life isn’t as out of reach as it may seem. It isn’t an epic mountain to climb. You just need the right tools and to learn how to utilize them properly. You already have everything you need… I’m just here to teach you how to use it.

The problem usually starts in your own mind. It’s the thoughts and stories we tell ourselves. And the good news is, you have complete control over your mind! And when you get a handle on your mindset, everything will change for you.

Here is where so many of us go wrong.

Most people just don’t know what makes for a healthy relationship and what sets the foundation for a healthy relationship. It really starts with having a clear understanding of what a healthy relationship looks like. Most people don’t have this because mainstream media only shows us dysfunctional relationships, since those are more fun to watch.

In terms of how to get to that strong place internally, it’s really about getting your mind under control, learning to manage your thoughts and perspectives, and not feeding into thoughts that feel bad to you.

A lot of people create stories about themselves based on the things that happen. For example, your partner leaves you for someone else and you tell yourself, “It’s because I’m unloveable and unworthy and every guy I truly care for will find someone better.” This story becomes hardwired into your psyche and has an effect on your future relationships, even though it isn’t a conscious thought.

You carry the pain into your next relationship and bring all that anxiety with you, which prevents you from being able to present and form a connection. Then that relationship fails and you use that as further proof that you are unworthy, and on and on the cycle goes until you finally challenge those faulty beliefs that were wired into your brain.

Once we learn how to undo the stories we tell ourselves, and more importantly, once we get our thoughts and relationship anxiety under control, not only can we have the relationship we want, we can have anything we want in life.

You have so much more power over your life than you realize.

You’re Overthinking It: How to Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self is the ultimate guide to understanding relationships and learning the necessary skills to find and keep a happy, loving, and mutually fulfilling relationship.

Do you wonder why it’s so hard for you to have the life and love you want? Do you feel powerless in your relationships, like you’re at the mercy of someone else, feeling like you’re chasing a relationship instead of choosing it? Do you get caught in an endless, obsessive, analytical loop trying to understand why nothing works out? Do you find yourself dating the same copy-paste versions of people over and over? Do you know what it takes to have true, lasting love? Do you know the red flags to watch out for and how to be the kind of person that easily and effortlessly gets what they want in life? Do you understand why things haven’t quite worked out the way you wanted them to?

Acclaimed relationship expert Sabrina Alexis Bendory answers all of these questions and more, sharing everything you need to know to find and keep love that lasts.

You can find You’re Overthinking It: How to Find Lifelong Love by Being Your True Self exclusively online at Shop Catalog.